“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”-Maya Angelou
We all have struggled with some sort of insecurity at one time or another in our lives. While building confidence is something that many of us have had to do, it is also something that doesn’t necessarily come easily to everyone. Even if you are struggling to build up your confidence, there are steps that you can take over time to help you become the woman that you were meant to be.
If you are looking for ways to boost your confidence, here are some tips that you can follow. These ten traits are something that all confident women possess.
10 Habits of Confident Women
She Takes Care of Herself
Confident women understand that in order to help others, they have to help themselves first. She is no martyr and does not have any intention of ever becoming one. As women, it is so easy to get wrapped up in caring for others that we don’t take the time to care for ourselves. But confident make sure that they schedule time for themselves; even if it’s small things daily.
If you are struggling to come up with different ways to fit self-care time in, start by making a list of things that you would like to do, that you have a hard time fitting it. Essentially make a self-care bucket list. Next, make it a point to make time to do at least one of these items one day of the week (starting out, until you are able to fit something in more consistently). Keep going until self-care is second nature to you.
She Spends More Time Focusing On the Positive Aspects of Things Instead of the Negative
It’s easy to get caught up with all of the negative things that can happen in life, along with all of the negative images that are shown to us daily on television. However, confident women like to focus on all of the positive things that are happening. When she speaks to about herself, her life, her family and friends; and to others, she only uses uplifting words. Confident women understand that relishing in the misery of other’s doesn’t and won’t ever bring her happiness.
She Puts Away “Childish” Things
Drama Laden and negative people are literally soul suckers. They can drain the life out of you faster than running a complete uphill half marathon. Confident women do their best to make sure that these types of people aren’t in their lives.
She Is A “Goal” Digger
She doesn’t just dream, but she ensures that she has an action plan in place to achieve those dreams. She understands that it’s just not enough motivation to want to do something or to have something; but that you have to know how you are going to get there. Whether it’s vision boards, mastermind groups or the like, confident women do everything in their power to help themselves succeed.
She Is Content In Her Own Skin
Being content in your own skin is not an easy feat. It is so easy to get caught up with our own insecurities (especially if they are constantly pointed out by others). However, the confident woman embraces all of strengths and weaknesses. She doesn’t need to go out of her way to impress others. When she dresses or does her hair and makeup, it is solely for her benefit and hers alone. She also does not compare herself to others.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
She Enjoys Life
A confident woman spends her days and nights), living life to its fullest. She tries new things, sees the world, and understands that tomorrow isn’t promised. The confident woman takes nothing for granted, and it shows in the way she chooses to live her life.
She Embraces Her Purpose
Confident women understand their strengths; they make sure that they can be effectively utilized in both personal and professional settings. They focus on what they excel in, more than dwelling on their weaknesses.
Confident women also realize that they are human and are bound to make mistakes. However, you will very rarely catch her making the same mistake twice.
They Enjoy Being With Themselves
Confident women know that if they can’t stand to be alone with their own selves, then why would anyone else want to be around them. Women who are confident are also empowered by going out alone; they have no qualms about seeing a movie by themselves or having dinner alone in a restaurant.
They cherish their friends and family, but also realize that it is important to have their “me” time, where they can shamelessly indulge themselves. And they can always be social when they are ready.
They Own Their Feelings
Confident women say what they mean, and mean what they say. They don’t have to pass the buck off to someone else. If messes up, she acknowledges it, fixes it and moves on. She doesn’t hold it in hoping it will go away.
They Support Others
Confident women understand that there is enough room for everyone to “eat”. They don’t try and block or stop the success of others. When their friends and family do well, they are cheering them on. Confident women know that by seeing other’s succeed it only pushes her to work harder, even if she is already winning (you can never do too much winning, right?).
Love of impromptu dance parties, 80’s cartoons, and horizontal life pauses (aka naps); Natasha Brown is a stay at home mom of 4 kids, and wife to one lucky guy! In her spare time, she is co-editor of Grits & Grace, as well as editor for The Mother Hustler Blog and Creative Director for the Mother Hustler podcast.