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10 Ways to Build Your Confidence and Become the Woman You Were Meant to Be

10 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence And Become The Woman You Were Meant To Be

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”-Maya Angelou

We all have struggled with some sort of insecurity at one time or another in our lives. While building confidence is something that many of us have had to do, it is also something that doesn’t necessarily come easily to everyone.  Even if you are struggling to build up your confidence, there are steps that you can take over time to help you become the woman that you were meant to be.

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The Day I Realized I Was A Shitty Parent

As a parent, it can be hard to admit when we have failed at something. Saying it to ourselves is one thing, but letting the world know, is a completely different level of uncomfortable.

But like they say, when you know better, you do better. I never want to look back and wonder what could I have done differently?  Or I wish I was there more. I know if I don’t want to ever feel that way, then I definitely do not want my children to have those memories of their childhood either. Read more

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15 Ways To Help Your Child Calm Down (and still keep your sanity)

15 Ways To Help Your Child Calm Down and Still Keep Your Sanity // www.gritsngrace.com

As adults sometimes we find it difficult to navigate and manage stress. So it’s easy to imagine (at least I hope), that it must be the same for kids as well. My dad always sad a happy child is a stress-free child; and while I agree, I knew that I had to start taking steps to help my children manage stress in a healthy and positive way. By instilling these habits early on, this will help them learn to find healthy ways to cope as an adult (at least I hope).

Here are 30 ways to help your child calm down and cope with stress.

1. Blow Bubbles

Besides being outright fun, blowing bubbles helps to control breathing which is a common technique many parents use when they want their kids to calm down.

2. Count to 5

Is a simple form of meditation. Combined with breathing this can be an effective technique for allowing your child to reset.

3. Give (or get) hugs.

Hugs reduce blood pressure and stress. Grandma didn’t lie when she said a hug makes everything better.

4.Rocking

5. Talk about it.

6. Play music.

7. Dance

8. Go for a walk.

Walking has been proven to reduce stress. Sometimes a short walk just to clear their head (and yours) is all that is needed.

9. Complete a craft.

It gives the child the chance to sit still and focus on something other that what made them upset for a few minutes.

10. Color

Coloring is helpful on so many levels. This is another activity that allows them to redirect their focus to something else.  Having special coloring books just for calm down time may be beneficial. You can even let your child pick out a coloring book that they would like to have.

11. Run

Sometimes all of the anxiety and anger built up can be released by something a simple as running. Like walking it helps to reduce stress and can be the start of making sure your child has a healthy outlet for reducing stress.

12. Find something squishy and squeeze it

Squeezing is a great way to release tension in the body. Kids sometimes don’t realize just how upset they are (and how much they are holding in) until they start squeezing something.

13. Place hands in pockets

Like a hug, this is another form of applying deep pressure to the body. Kids can also sit on their hands or clasp them.

14. Close eyes and think of a calm place (or place they want to be)

15. Push against the wall

Have your child push against the for 10-15 second two or three times. This allows them to relax by releasing hormones into the body.

 

 

 

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5 Ways To Show Your Partner You Love Them This Week

5 Ways To Show Your Spouse You Love Them This Weekk//www.gritsngrace.com

Early mornings and late nights, can lead to a lot of stress in marriages. I recently talked about how the long stressful days caused a division in my marriage and how we decided that we were moving forward.  In marriage, it’s very easy to fall into the trap of putting everything before one another/forgetting why you married one another in the first place. Read more

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25 Affirmations For That Will Make Your Day

It’s Sunday, which means it is time for us to extend a little grace to our readers! If you are anything like us, life can be a little hectic at times. If you have ever had your mind so clouded that you can’t seem to pull your emotions or thoughts together, then we know exactly how you feel. Read more

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10 Important Lessons Men Should Teach Their Sons

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Guest post by Christopher Brown

As parents, it is our job to ensure that our children learn everything they need from us in order to become functioning adults.

However, for parents of  boys, we often find ourselves teaching them lessons that we find important, but  won’t help them be the men they need to be.

While this list focuses on what I believe that all men should teach their sons, these lessons could similarly be applied to what all parents should teach their kids.

Ten Important Lessons Men Should Teach Their Sons

Self-discipline

Knowing how to work hard is just as important as working hard. Keeping yourself motivated when things are easy is one thing, but keeping yourself motivated when things are bad is another beast. Regardless of the situation, you must have the willpower to push through. Showing that you can do this will not only motivate those around you, it will make you a stronger man.

Take responsibility

In short step-up. Men take responsibility for their actions and don’t need others to tell them when or how to do so. Being responsible for one’s choices and actions isn’t always the easiest thing in the world. However, true manhood is being able to admit when they are wrong.

Choose your battles wisely.

It’s important to know which ones are worth fighting and which ones are better left as is. It’s okay to be quiet and walk away. It doesn’t make you less of a man.

Be a gentleman

Having old school values is okay. Treating women with respect is even more than okay.

-Hold the door

-Offer your seat.

-Push her chair up to the table.

-Watch your language

Be honest with yourself and everyone else.

Men who are honest are comfortable in themselves. “An honest man has an honorable manhood, which is something that every man should consider to succeed in life.”

Humility

Confidence is important but so is being humble. Men have to learn how to balance the two. Being able to do creates a strong and effective leader, which should be the goal for every man.

Giving to others rather than receiving.

Men who exemplify manhood see a need, and take the necessary steps to remedy that need.  Filling a void and helping others, gives you a greater sense of joy than seeing what others can do for you.

Manners

Men (especially fathers) are portrayed as disgusting pigs (ala Al Bundy), but that’s not all men. Manners are important every second of the day, in every situation. Whether you are at home eating at your dinner table or eating in a five-star restaurant. Manners define people, and it separates us in terms of class and sophistication. Having manners and using them, also means that you are showing others around you respect.

Be open.

It’s okay to show feelings and to be sensitive. Toxic masculinity is a thing. To deny it exists is foolish. It’s not hard to find, and I could list several examples. In order to combat it, we have to teach our sons that it’s okay be vulnerable. It’s okay to show compassion to others. It’s a wonderful quality that all leaders have, which is why they are loved and respected by others.

The first shall be last.

This is a quote I read on facebook a year ago and typed into my phone as a reminder.

True manhood puts others first.  If you want to be a leader, then the place to be is on your knees, with a towel in your hand, washing someone’s feet.-Unknown. 

 

Achieving Work-Life-Balance When Working from Home

The topic of balance is one that I have struggled with since I was in high school. When I became a college student, I worked three jobs while trying to maintain a full load of classes. While I managed I can honestly say it was always just the bare minimum. At the age of thirty-three, I certainly do not have it all figured out, but, I am getting better with it as time goes on and that is what is most important. Read more